Do We Do It Solely for Ourselves?

We keep hearing the famous sentence “we need to do it for ourselves”. Anything in this life, whether to succeed, to grow, to change, to improve, to be happy, Everything is just for us!

Furthermore, we must be happy from within, we must make peace with ourselves, and love ourselves.

Yes, indeed, it is very true and anyone can agree how important it is!

BUT,
Does it matter if we are completely alone? Like literally alone!

In other words, there are no people around to compete with, to impress, admire, love, and share our thoughts, our happiness, and our sadness with.

Or maybe there are some people, but no one gives a shit about you! Like literally!

Imagine with me a city like “Equilibrium”. In this city, people are not allowed to feel, all emotions are suppressed and all kind of feelings are crimes punishable by death!

Consequently, there is no interaction, nothing at all! So what would you feel or do? (Oh you’re not allowed to feel, but just saying 😁)

Would you care if you had the perfect body shape or a six-pack?
Would you care to wear branded and expensive clothes?

Would you be eager to put on make-up and wear expensive perfume?
Does it matter if you are a general manager in a very reputable company or just a janitor?

Would you care if no one else cares?

What would stir you up?

Would you chase a master’s or doctoral degree, would you work hard to open a business, to be a great writer, painter, teacher, coach, lawyer, or doctor, or would you be an avid lover of anything at all?

It is true that we need to make peace with our inner self, yes, it is! We need to be happy from the inside and do it primarily because we want it, but there is a fact that we are affected by other people, we are mostly motivated or inspired by other people, probably idols, probably people we love, friends, family, lovers.

It is known that people with healthy relationships are the happiest! They can conquer the world! And people with toxic relationships and various issues have a hard and unhappy life and these healthy relationships start with the family! The major foundation.

Moreover, many people who are considered “famous” and “successful” are inspired by people they love deeply. Therefore, they wrote books, and novels, and produced the best movies, brought the most important inventions, they were creative and successful for the sake of their dear people!

Abraham Lincoln, George Washington, Pablo Picasso, Maya Angelou, Stevie Wonder, and Charlie Chaplin’s careers were inspired by their mothers.

Lincoln said: “All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother.”.

Picasso said: “My mother said to me, ‘If you become a soldier, you’ll be a general; if you become a monk you’ll end up as the pope.’ Instead, I became a painter and wound up as Picasso.”

John Lennon’s wife “Yoko Ono” influenced him as a musician and activist and when they asked him why he couldn’t be alone without her he said, “I can be, but I don’t wish to be, there is no reason on earth why I should be without her.”

Unfortunately, it goes both ways. We also witnessed the destruction of many lives, where many individuals reached rock bottom because of other people. Irrespective of the fact that we shouldn’t be affected and we are enough although this theory is eventually right, but until we get there, it’s a long journey and it’s impossible not to be affected.

I’ll make it simpler, we live our lives trying to reach the point that I’m doing it solely for me, I’m the only one that matters and while all this is right, I want you to close your eyes and envision:

You are the greatest writer ever, but no one is reading

You are the most beautiful woman on earth, but no one cares or no one is even looking.

You are the most famous athlete in the world, but according to whom? There is no one to compete with.

The world is oblivious to your existence, to your talents and skills!

The fact of using “the most” the “best”, and the “better”, requires competition and audience!

Otherwise, would you care? How would you feel?

I believe that self-confidence and self-satiety are all major but we are affected by other people since the day we were born!

I can tell you many stories about people whose single smile changed their life, one nice word, one person, one kiss, or one abrupt meeting turned their lives upside down. Do they lack self-confidence? No, they don’t, but they need someone to witness their life, they need motivation and inspiration.

Even when you seek motivation from success not from other people, this success source is other people!
How do you know it’s successful if no people are clapping and if there are no competitors, followers, and witnesses? I can tell you that sometimes the mere thought of meeting someone you deeply care for and seeing them proud of you, makes you perform wonders! In some cases, it’s a person you never met!

Sometimes, we want badly to be alone but only because we can’t be with certain people!

Or probably because we are deeply hurt, but no one wants to be alone and no one wants to do it only for them! If they do, then how do we know?

Of course, it excludes the alone time you crave sometimes, to meditate, to have rest, to enjoy some moments.

Summing up, we are interdependent, we need each other and we affect each other positively and negatively.

We are the reason for someone’s happiness, success, and excellence as we can be the reason for their pain and misery, and vice versa.
Don’t be afraid to find inspiration or motivation in someone, to have an idol, a lead example!
Don’t be afraid and don’t be ashamed, but at the same time be the inspiration, be the candle that can light up someone’s dark road.
Hence, find the light within and shine so bright!