Promoting My Comments into Posts! Part 4
For the new fellow bloggers that don’t know what I mean by posting this, well I decided to promote my comments made on other blogs’ posts into posts! Because I believe that they are not less than any post, they were made after a very good and profound read; therefore they deserve to be published as posts.
I have so far 3 previous posts, you can check them from the below links. Each post has different topics since I read and comment on multiple topics.
So today’s topics are also different, hope you’ll enjoy them. Remember when you see lot of “I” and “from my point of view” that these were comments written in reply to some questions.
On Motivation and Passion:
Well from my point of view and how I see it and feel it, when I’m working or doing something I hate, It’s not motivation that drives me, it’s just necessity! For me motivation must be positive and happy, when I remember my feeling each time I wake up each day for work or doing some things that I have to do, I remember “laziness” “tiredness” “zero interest” and lot of effort has to be made.
But I certainly can lose motivation for things I love some days and I need some reason to do them, so here motivation sounds positive and happy but I guess motivation always comes from outside, from people we care about and want to impress, fear of failure or society, etc.…. while passion comes from inside, we can’t control it or stop it, even if we bury it for some time, it will come out eventually. When I have passion for something, I don’t need any motivation to do it, I just do it with love and joy but I just need to work hard sometimes to make it happen and this is what most people give up on after they are drowned in their daily routine and stress and comparing them selves with other people
For me motivation always comes from people I love or want to impress or want to help and support. For this sake I’m ready to do anything.
My passion besides “writing” is for helping people and changing their life for the best in some very far point in this world and for mutual love as well.
Pursuing a passion or something you love will always be done with joy and without any intention to earn money, but if it happens that our passion led to earn money, then it became a profession and it’s good either.
For me, doing what we love is not related to money and it’s a necessity to every human being so we can enjoy our life and therefore spread happiness. Because when we’re unhappy and hurt, we just hurt and we can’t give or take care of people we love. So we must take care of ourselves first and enjoy our life by finding what’s our passion, even if it seems silly to others, but it makes us happy so we must do it and this is will always be regardless how much money we will earn.
I personally try to do what I love, at certain point it was writing songs and memorizing them, at some point learning new language, at some point going out and meet new people, at some point cycling…flying…at some point watching lot and lot of movies, most of the times: “writing”
Our interests change constantly (sometimes they last of course for a very long time) and we must always do them and enjoy them.
On personality and building walls:
I don’t know what kind of personality I have, but as most people I build many walls especially emotionally to protect myself as I believe we all do! Even though I have this need to meet new people and really know them, I end up feeling tired from people and disappointed!
Some people just send you signs and then they play dumb or they just too afraid or maybe have issues and problems, they were hurt so they hurt.
Despite trying to understand the people and their problems, when you’re hurt, you just can’t be so objective about it. So you just start to regret being honest, responding, being enthusiastic, showing your feelings, and you end up emotionally blocked and sometimes socially because most people are fake and care about appearances and material things.
But I struggle between this feeling and the feeling that I should never give up that there are plenty of goodness, love and honesty out there. Real people that will just be honest and not make you confused and hurt you. Because nowadays I care more about real even if it’s not so pretty and nice, someone that tells you I’m fucked up and this is who I am and what I’m able to, then someone who is hiding their real intentions, feelings, reality, and end up by hurting the people around them or playing them.
To answer how these walls hindered me, well I have become so rigid, I hardly express my feelings and I intimidate people, after all these walls that protect us from hurt also preventing us from love.
On blocking some events:
Mostly I have blocked many events from the past and sometimes I feel surprised how I totally forgot some things and moments! Probably I have buried them deep down or so.
But circumstances that make me think of the past vary from a simple scent (scents are important to me, they trigger memories) to a song or a place or when I’m so sad some days and down I tend to blame myself for some decisions, when I feel I didn’t accomplish so much, I blame myself for not doing this and that when I had the chance.
Otherwise I try to block the past as much as I can because the good memories are few and I don’t like to regret what I can’t change.
I guess we all have this problem: comparing ourselves to others or envying people because we believe they are happier, more successful, and prettier.
I don’t know at what point it becomes an illness, but for sure we all have it! Social Media has just increased it because now we can see everything, before it required some good stalking skills and probably a detective to do so 🙂
The way I see it, we should find out what we love, what makes us really happy even if it’s something silly or simple, and just do it, focus on it and forget about what others know or do!
Everyone is unique as fingerprints are and if we’re not satisfied, we just have to work to improve but the comparison should always be with our previous version not with anyone on this planet. Easy said than done I know but this is the only way to break this comparison circle.
Why we don’t compare ourselves to the people that are less fortunate, having less than we do in different aspects? Oh this is the part where we count our blessings I guess! Right?
Thank you for reading! Hope you enjoyed these topics. Please share your thoughts and opinions.
Huguette Antoun – April 23rd 2019